I need a break!

Gimme a break! I used to love that show. Don’t know what I’m talking about, don’t worry, I won’t go explaining here. Let me repeat that – Gimme a break! I realize in the context of what’s happening all around this country, this is the last thing I need to be complaining about, but I seriously need a destination vacation. I have no reason to travel this summer, and I have become sour on the future. But for now, I have to be content with where we are in life. I am eternally grateful every day that I’m in my current situation that I’m in. I have a beautiful family, a roof over my head and friends, and an extended family, food on my table, and a job- what more could this midwestern guy ask for? Which right now I can say is more than a lot of people in my country have. Amid this unprecedented situation, we currently find ourselves in a lot of people are out of work, probably close to being out of money and certainly running out of patience.

We in New Jersey have lost patience with staying indoors a while ago. As of this writing, the stay-at-home order has been lifted. But before that, most people were hitting the hiking trails or have just continued shopping in grocery stores. My day job is working at a wholesale club on the Jersey Shore, and I can confirm that people got a late start but are buying outdoor patio and seasonal items like CRAZY!

I can’t be too glum, my family has a Disney vacation planned during Halloween this year, but it seems like a long way away. Our April vacation to Tennessee was canceled. My son and I’s trip to Colorado with the Boy Scouts in July was also canceled. This has been the craziest year that anyone can remember with a desperate hope for the future. Unfortunately, things continue to get worse in our country, with a nit-wit dictatorial type President in the oval office. Our country’s flaws are laid bare by this virus for all the world to see. It’s painful to watch as other countries have come up with real solutions while our country has totally fumbled the coronavirus response.

In my opinion, we are regressing as a society instead of moving forward. I’ve read that Anthropologists say that it’s not one linear line to progress. Nations and societies regress and fall backward before moving forward again. We are definitely moving backward. For the last two weeks, I, along with the rest of the world, have watched the country rise up against brutal tactics of the police in minority communities. It’s both heartbreaking and encouraging to see so many people come together of all races and use their constitutional right to protest amid the coronavirus pandemic. Heartbreaking because we are still having major race issues in this country. Encouraging because people are willing to risk their health and lives to protest in large groups.

As for travel, I think that’s going to be out for most of us in the northeast. My brother and sister-in-law are going away for the night to Wildwood, New Jersey, and they have to bring their own sheets to sleep on. I don’t know how much we’re going to be able to do when we go to Disney for Halloween, but at least we’ll get out of town for a while. Travel is my favorite thing to do, and it’s all but squashed at every turn. Again this is where gratitude comes in to play. I am very thankful for the position we’re in, but this has got to change. I have a friend in Texas, and they opened their state up early, and now I’m reading they’re having a spike in cases of coronavirus. I know this is not going away until there’s a vaccine. Especially next winter things are going to be ugly. I’m not looking forward to this summer because of racial tensions in this country, and I’m sure as hell not looking forward to this winter because of the coronavirus.

I’m in no way a Debbie downer, but this current situation has me beat. I want to end on a positive note that there are sunnier days ahead and many trips for the future. I think we all need a little hope and inspiration right now. Think back to your last vacation while you were sipping a drink poolside or smoking a cigar with some friends in some sunny destination as the wind blew through the palm trees. Take care, my friends.

To travel or not to travel- Coronavirus

I started writing this blog post 2 days ago and meant to finish it before all hell broke loose. Apparently, I’m a little too late. I just came back from work where I was awestruck at the destruction of the Club I work. My 9 to 5 job is a forklift driver and bakery clerk at BJ’s Wholesale Club in South Central New Jersey. My co-worker sent me a text yesterday, alluding to how busy we were, and she shot me a picture. It was a picture looking out from the bakery to a line of customers that wrapped around our tables. This picture included our completely bare bread racks. People started panic buying Thursday at my store and have continued through today, Friday the 13th. It was absolute mayhem. With that in mind, I wrote the following a couple of days ago.

I’m just an individual with no specialized degrees or special qualifications to espouse advice on this subject. However, I think people need to hear how other people are handling the crisis and to state some facts. Make no bones about it, it is a crisis, or soon will be. The only reason we haven’t seen more cases of COVID-19 in the US is that there hasn’t been the level of testing that there has been in South Korea or the United Kingdom. South Korea was testing upwards of 10,000 a day, and the UK is testing around four thousand a day.

The CDC (Centers for Disease Control) in the beginning insisted on developing their own kits, instead of adopting those provided by the World Health Organization. So they lost out on precious time and to get ahead of this virus. The President’s response is best described as malevolence tempered with incompetence. Instead of letting the experts, i.e., Doctors and Scientists, take the lead, our President has pushed himself and his V.P., both politicians, to take the lead on the response. This tactic is dangerous at best and irresponsible at worst.
At this point, our country is not prepared for this crisis. As of Tuesday, around 4300 people have been tested according to the Atlantic magazine and their independent team that’s studied each state’s reported numbers.

According to Anthony Fauci, the director of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases, the federal government may have finally ironed out the difficulties: He announced on March 8 that “around 4million tests” would be sent out by “the end of next week.” Irwin Redlener, a physician who studies public health and disaster preparedness at Columbia University, condemned the federal government’s response as “the most egregious level of incompetence in an administration that I think we’ve witnessed at least in my memory…It’s actually stunning.”

This country is in no situation to weather the storm of a full-blown pandemic. The shocking number of bankruptcies each year, 530,000, due to healthcare bills also exacerbates the misery of society at large. The lack of paid sick leave for regular ordinary persons. There’s already talk about bailing out the cruise lines and providing a stimulus package, so Wall Street doesn’t freak out any further. The ordinary person is supposed to obey the rules and not get for any help, but when it comes to our corporations, they get all the help they need from the federal government.

On a personal note, I took a $3000 pay cut the year that my health insurer started implementing co-insurance deductibles in addition to co-pays. That was about five years ago, and it has progressively gotten worse. So any “pay increases” have been woefully too little to offset the enormous pay cut I endured five years ago.

I currently and still work in a retail environment at a 9 to 5 job four days a week. I have witnessed our store blow through at least 30 pallets of water last weekend alone. Sales are up across the board from cleaning supplies to perishables, to storage bags and all “end of the world” type items. The people around me, including myself, have convinced ourselves that this is not as bad as the 14 to 46 thousand people who die from the influenza virus each year. But because the full scope is not yet visible, we don’t know the mortality rate of this virus. From what I am reading, in Italy, it is hovering around 5%. That’s a little different than the flu.

I hope this article doesn’t scare you from taking any vacations this year. Quite the opposite, I hope it empowers and informs you to make the correct decision for yourselves. I flew, with my wife, a week after 9/11 to Colorado from New Jersey. Yes, the plane was empty. I have a strong foundational belief when it’s your time to go; it’s your time to go. So I’ve lived my life with this ethos and have taken risks that I know other people would call foolish. After the coronavirus had already taken hold in February, I traveled to Australia for several workshops concerning my Digital Marketing business. I never once thought about canceling the trip. I was not alone. Everyone showed up that had booked their journeys, and both classes were full. Granted, it was early on during the coronavirus outbreak.

I believe this virus should subside and hopefully disappear during the summer months, but it’s summer down in the Southern Hemisphere, and the virus is spreading down there as well. I have the opportunity to go to Disney World in late October, early November of this year, and we took the plunge. Last night I booked our plane tickets, and my wife previously booked our rooms at Animal Kingdom lodge. I also have a trip planned to Colorado this summer with my son through Boy Scouts that I hope doesn’t get canceled. I tell you this because I want you to realize that even though I’m extremely concerned about what could happen in the coming year, but I still will continue to live my life to the fullest. Now, after I’ve stated this, I do have a line in the sand for my family and me. I will not under any circumstance, go on a cruise until this virus goes away. I just learned my mother and father-in-law are currently booked to go on a cruise this summer. I have full intention of talking them out of it. I desperately want to cruise out of New Orleans, which my wife and I have never been to, on Disney Cruise Lines, but until a vaccine is created or by some miracle the virus subsides entirely, I will not book a cruise. I believe the US State Department stated we should avoid going on cruises.

My advice to myself and others is that everyone lay low for a couple of weeks and practice excellent hygiene, and we should come out on the other side of this, okay. I’m preparing for the worst but hoping for the best and praying for everyone else. Please let me know what you think in the comments below.

Jet Lag

Have you ever had really bad jet lag? For some reason, I don’t believe I’ve ever had jet lag. I flew from the East Coast of the United States to Europe three times. I really don’t remember having terrible or even mild jet lag. The savior, if it can be called that, is I don’t sleep on planes. On a 12 hour flight, I might sleep an hour or an hour and a half at the most. Then the rest is dozing off and on. So when I get to my destination I tend to take a nap when I get to my hotel. This is the important part, I set a timer so that I don’t oversleep from my nap. I usually go out have some dinner, watch some tv or do some work on my laptop then go to bed kinda early and sleep until I wake up the next morning. In the past, that seems to have worked. In my most recent trip across 15 time zones to Australia, I did this routine and I had no problems. However, when I flew back home I didn’t come home until the evening which gave me no time to take a nap. I went to bed kinda early but don’t remember when I woke up in the night. I remember the second night I woke up at 12:30 wide awake and got up and stayed up. The subsequent nights I wasn’t able to sleep through the night until finally, I had to go back to work after being home for 3 nights. For some stupid reason, I didn’t realize it was jet lag until the 3rd day back and I was reading about it online. The definition of jet lag is when you’re body’s internal clock is out of sync with cues from a new time zone. I wasn’t sleeping all the way through the night and then I was crashing and taking a massive amount of naps during the afternoon. Duh!

Again, I never experienced it before so I really wasn’t prepared for it either. I went back to work on Wednesday after coming home on Saturday night. It took me a full week to recuperate and get back to feeling 100% where I wasn’t ready to crash after I came home from work. I am up for work at 3:55 am and get home around 1:30 pm and every day that I was at work I felt like a Mack truck hit me. It was not a pleasant experience. Click on the link below if you want to read about how to get rid of jet lag. Personally, I think I like my version better.


Please share any experiences you’ve had with jet lag in the comments below.

One day in Paris, France

Tuesday was our day to tour Paris, but the wife and I couldn’t agree on how exactly we wanted to do that. As I have stated before- do as I say, not as I do. Don’t ever wait until the last minute to book a tour in a major city. However, I had been to Paris twice before and my wife once before. We had been planning out this entire trip almost a year before it happened. So in those months leading up to the trip, I just forgot to book a tour.

If I did not make it clear in my last post, the Eurostar train dropped us directly in front of the gates to Disneyland Paris. Our hotel was a short walk to the train station, but we decided to take a taxi into Paris. It was a lot more expensive, but we felt it was a better option in our case. We didn’t feel comfortable with two kids and having to change multiple trains to get into Paris. The night before, we booked a tuk-tuk tour, and we scheduled to meet around 10 am a couple of blocks from the Eiffel Tower. (See my wife’s pictures of the tuk-tuk below). The tuk-tuk is an open-aired three-wheeled vehicle with a driver who was also our tour guide. It was bizarre at first, but afterward, we all agreed it was one of the best tours we’ve ever done in any city. We booked this tour through the Paris City Guides App on my iPhone. It was ridiculously easy, and the best part is I booked the trip the night before! Yes, our family does fly by the seat of our pants. As I mentioned previously, it was idiotic to wait until the very last minute to book a tour, but it turned out to be a fantastic mistake.

We had a wonderful breakfast again at the buffet in the hotel and then promptly caught our taxi. It was roughly an hour or so drive to our destination in Paris. We wound up getting there 25 minutes early, so we decided to call our contact for the tour to just let him know we were there waiting. I didn’t expect him to rush to meet us, but he was there 10 minutes later. I think the kids were a little baffled when the tuk-tuk pulled up to the curb. “Are we going on this?” I believe was blurted out. I have to laugh now because everyone in this country drives in humongous vehicles and Europe it’s precisely the opposite for obvious reasons. I have to admit I was a little uncomfortable at first riding in the vehicle, but I adjusted to it after a while. I’m not sure how my wife felt at first, but I know what the kids were thinking. We took this trip in August, so it was warm, but not hot outside. Paris had been going through an extreme heatwave earlier that summer, but by this time, it had cooled to around 80 degrees Fahrenheit in the daytime. So being in an open-aired vehicle was perfect. I think we all appreciated that you could feel so connected to the city.

We were able to tell the driver, Mike, to take us wherever we wanted to go, and first up was to take us to the best bakery he could find. We settled on one not too far away, but it was the best one in the area. I apologize I don’t remember the name of it. I’ve looked through all my receipts and even my credit card statements and couldn’t find the name of it anywhere. We bought some bread that came in handy for lunch later, and several other goodies. Unfortunately, my son, who is allergic to lots of different foods, cannot ever eat at a bakery. There’s too much exposure to nuts. We resumed our tour of the different arrondissements or districts of Paris. We booked Mike for four hours, and he took us everywhere!

Of course, we stopped at the obligatory Eiffel Tower stop, the Louvre, and the Arc De Triomphe on the Champs Elysee. When we stopped at the Arc, we saw an older man running across the circle, which you’re not supposed to do, just before a stream of oncoming cars almost mowed him down. Some people are stupid beyond all reason. We were all starving for lunch, so we stopped for ice cream. Yes, you read that right- ice cream. It was the best ice cream I’ve ever eaten. The name of the place is called Amorino. I don’t know how, but we spent $44 on ice cream. My wife bought macarons to eat and also for gifts. That had to be it. We’ve bought macarons in South Florida (delicious believe it not), New Jersey, and now Paris. These macarons were unbelievably delicious, as they should be, but I also remember the macarons in South Florida were made by a Frenchman as well.

We also stopped in an arts district, Montmarte, on the hill overlooking the Eiffel Tower in the distance. It was right next to Basilique Sacre-Coeur de Montmarte. Since we did not plan this trip ahead of time, there was no way to get into the basilica. We took a break at the basilica, found a restroom, and browsed some street art. I was very tempted to buy a few items. I prefer to support independent artists than larger commercial artists. But I didn’t see anything that really caught my eye. I remember, at this point in the tour, we were starting to get hot. We didn’t make any more stops that I remember, and we drove through a half a dozen districts in Paris- it was all kind of a blur, but I tried to savor every minute of it. I look back now and realize that we both showed our kids as much of Paris as we possibly could in one day.

Paris is to this date my favorite city I’ve ever visited with Vancouver coming in a very close second. I’ve been lucky enough to go there for my third time, two times with my wife, and the first time was another time in 1995. There’s something magical at night that happens in the old district. All of the buildings are in a glow of streetlights, and the city is most spectacular at night. I’ve never seen anything like it. I’ve seen pictures of Singapore at night, but for me, nothing compares to Paris. The architecture is captivating and made more magical by the lights at night. The myriad of people, there’s no better place to people watch.
I could go on about Paris, but I think I need to wrap this post up.
If you’ve never been to Paris, but have always wanted to go, please do so and make sure you stay centrally located. I have the name of a centrally located hotel in the 1st district, that has a bakery right down the street and that is very cozy. (Cozy in Paris means small). My wife and I stayed there in 2004- Duminy Vendome located not too far away from the Louvre. Please, please leave any comments or thoughts on your favorite city and why. I love hearing about other people’s travels.

Disneyland Paris

The second part of our European trip was a lot of shuffling between trains and automobiles.” We disembarked the Disney Magic in Dover, England. We weren’t 100% sure how we were getting to Disneyland Paris. We knew we were taking the Eurostar train from Ashford train station to Disneyland Paris, but not sure how we were getting to Ashford. We had the option of taking a train or taking a taxi. My wife opted for a taxi, but when we told him where we needed to go he told us the highway to Ashford was being re-paved and was really not an option. So be it, we took the 10-minute taxi drive to the local train station in Dover, England, and promptly boarded the next train to Ashford.  

In a previous post, I wrote the best way to travel is to pack light. I also said do as I say, not as I do. We had four of us with four large suitcases all on wheels that swivel. They are easy to maneuver, but for my 12-year old daughter, she struggled a little, especially over gaps and bumps. The train to Ashford from Dover was especially cramped with four large suitcases. There were luggage racks at the end of the coaches and were very small- not built for full-size bags. So we kept the bags with us, and they wound up sticking out in the aisle.  

Between getting off the ship very early Sunday morning, then taking a speedy train into Ashford, we arrived at the security gate before the security checkpoint was open. We waited maybe 15 minutes and then was able to proceed through. It was not as strict as airline security; however, the bags were sent through an x-ray, and we went through a metal detector, which, if memory serves me correct, we didn’t have to go through in 2005 when we were last on this train. The security personnel was amicable and talkative. In the lounge area was plenty of seating, a children’s play area, and two places to get food and coffee. Of course, I got coffee, and the interesting part was they served it in a real coffee mug, not a disposable cup. On a side note, I kept noticing printed on the tickets; the train ride was a three-hour ride, thinking that was a little long. I opted for the upgraded seats on the Eurostar train that comes with a meal. The seats were comfy, and there was plenty of room to stretch out my legs. When I booked the tickets online, there was an option to put special meal requests, and I put in my son had peanut allergies. However, when the server came around to deliver food, they only had special diet options for Kosher and vegetarian. Fortunately, we always pack snacks, so my son, Austin, had enough to eat on the way. Two hours into the ride, the train started slowing down, and I noticed there was another hour to go but suddenly realized we were pulling into Chessy- Marne station at Disneyland Paris. It finally dawned on me that we had crossed time zones. On an airplane, they always announce the local time. On this train, there was no announcement at all.  

Once we got off the train, we had no idea how to get to our hotel. We could see it, but couldn’t figure out how to get to it, which I know sounds silly. We walked around a little with suitcases in tow until we finally decided the only possible way was through the main entrance into Disneyland past security. When we asked security how do we get to the Disneyland Hotel, it took three of them to figure out what we were asking. It was an obvious language problem. Once they understood, they radioed to the hotel to make sure we were guests there. We sent our bags through the x-ray machine, which just barely fit, and we were through security on our way to our hotel……finally.  

The Disneyland Hotel is the most elegant hotel on the property. The outside is themed like a castle as well as the inside. The most amazing feature is that when you walk outside the hotel it is directly in front of the gates to Disneyland. Of course, you get access to the park an hour earlier than general admission. Which was a huge advantage on Monday when we went to the park. Anyway, when we first get there we met a fantastic employee at the concierge desk. He was able to answer all of our many questions and finally directed us to the main ticket booth in Disneyland. My wife wound up saving us over $300 by buying an annual pass for herself and then purchasing single-day tickets for the rest of us for each day. It worked for us. I cannot recommend this for everyone; however, if you’re planning a trip to Disneyland Paris, I would look into it, it may save you hundreds. By the time we finished at the ticket counter, we still had part of the afternoon and that night to stay in the park if we wanted. The experience was surreal. The kids and I had never been to any Disneyland. My wife had been to Disneyland in California 20 plus years ago. To be at Disneyland but to be in a different country was strange and exciting at the same time. Main Street U.S.A was roughly the same but, the castle was all pink and a little bit smaller than Disney World. We did not stay late, we usually never do, but would have all of Monday in the park.  

Monday morning, we got up and had a fantastic breakfast buffet at our hotel. It was rather expensive but well worth it. They had a vast selection of breadt, pastries, and even more croissants. I kept noticing on our trip throughout Denmark, and especially France, they stayed away from plastic as much as they possibly could. The containers for the honey and jams and jellies were in tiny glass jars.  

Map of Disneyland Paris

Inside the park, Disneyland Paris had its equivalent of Epcot’s Food and Wine Festival going on. My wife was all excited. The event was called Le Rendez-vous Gourmand but was on a much smaller scale than Epcot’s. France had 4 or 5 chalets or pavilions, and there were only a total of 12 themed chalets. We ate at several of the kiosks for lunch. I don’t remember which ones we ate at, but I remember that we were full after three stops. This park had a cool ride that none of the other Disneyland Parks have called Crush’s Coaster. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pNTbhPoABQA ). I rode it on a completely empty stomach, and my reward was almost throwing up after the ride was over. It spun you around while going along the tracks in what was mostly a dark ride. I haven’t been that sick since I don’t know when. Fortunately, nausea quickly passed, and I was able to ride other rides that day. The kids and my wife loved that ride. I highly recommend- just not on an empty stomach.  

Although the hotel was beautiful, we did have one rather annoying problem. After the second use on the first day, the toilet would not stop running. I lifted the lid of the tank and did not recognize any parts that I could move or tweak, so I called down to the front desk. After several minutes of no one answering the phone, we let the front desk know on our way back out to the parks. We came back from the parks, and the toilet was still running. I called down again, and this time the front desk picked up and told them that this needs to be fixed before we go to sleep for the night. They finally sent someone to fix it when we went out for the evening. The next day it did the same thing. We told the front desk, and again, it took them a while to fix it. Overall it was an incredible experience at the hotel and the Park. I know we didn’t see everything inside Disneyland, but we were getting tired from the long vacation- two full weeks.  

Tuesday was our day to tour Paris, and then we were leaving for home on Wednesday. I know the kids at this point were ready to go back home. My daughter loves her routines, and vacations are routine disruptors. I wouldn’t change anything about this trip if I had to do it over again, but I don’t think we’ll be taking any two-week vacations anytime soon. While my wife is extremely nervous about going into Paris, this was going to be my favorite part of the trip.  

I will post the Paris part of the trip very shortly and will include lots of pictures. Until then, may your vacations be filled with wonderful memories.